The long 15 days of Chinese New Year was finally over or was it really that long? For adults, somehow their watches and clocks tick faster than the kids.
For those how think the 15 days passed very quickly, I'm sure there would be some things that you wished you have done, may be meeting up with some friends or doing the thing you have always wanted to do but never have the time.
I have some unfulfilled or un-executed wishes just like many. But I think the root cause for my inaction is not so much of poor planning or time really passes by that fast. For me, it is definitely a case of 'not sure when the right time is.' I plan to have an open house but then again not sure what the right date is. So for the past 15 days, I have been doing something I called 'try and fix' a date. With the 15 days over, I am still in the 'try and fix' mode. What I could have done differently? I could have done it the way the young people do their things - 'fix and try'!
'Fix and try' simply means you are not sure when the right time is but you fix an arbitrary date and inform others. Then from that moment on, you try to maneuver and orchestrate to try to make it happen. I think this is a better way for at least the date is IN the plan. It may not happen, but at least we tried. It may be disappointing to some, but at least if it does materialize, the rewards are worth it. It may give you some extra work, but at least your 15 days will be longer.
We all know for a fact: 'let's catch up some day' simply means 'the day will never come.' They know it and we know it.
So, if you ever have something you want to do and do not know when, why not fix a date on it and try. The chances are anytime better than you try and fix a date.fix, try
3 comments:
I am very much agreed to what you said, and I am typical FIX-AND-TRY type. As for my experience, this method is always better without much thinking and hesitation which can keep us slower in action.
But the truth is when we grow older, we seems to lost the MOTIVATION to do something, we seems to have more COMMITMENTS and we are unconfident whether our promise can be materialize, and worst we tend to have LESS CONTROL over our time.
Yet we forget also, only we live with our time, and no one else. If we missed it, it can never come back again. We even forget we should do things for OURSELVES and not only others. This is because we always care how others look at us, we hope we are labeled as nice and caring person, therefore we always prioritize others before us.
At the end of the day, we may just ask ourselves, 'HEY, HOW MANY THINGS I DO FOR MYSELF DURING THE PAST YEAR?'
Hi Happy,
First, congratulations for being the 'new kid on the blog' :) Hope this blog will be a meaningful journey towards the 're-understanding' of truth.
Your comments are very true. I think the complication stems from the following:
- we become more 'matured' and try not to say 'I want' but prefer to say 'I have to' (refer to 'I want! I want!' blog on Sep 3rd 2005)
- we forget what we were fighting for; initially some things we do were aimed to give us better happiness but ended up quarreling because of different opinions.
I like this statement of yours, 'We forget what we were fighting for; initially some things we do were aimed to give us better happiness but ended up quarreling because of different opinions.'...
I think a lot of people, regardless how old they are, always could not handle DIFFERENT OPINIONS well. They always think that people infringe their EGO when holding different value or opinions. Then, they tend to defend themselves or just want others to follow them, as they want to FEEL RIGHT even if it is not TRUE most of the time.
So what different? We can be on different paths, as long as lead to the same destination. Right?
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